About This Blog

I’m a Writer, a Mother and an Adoptee and most days, I dance

And this blog is about how I learned to Make Peace with the Universe one book, one recipe, one story, one song, one quote at a time

Hi!  This is Kate Oliver writing – and its a pleasure to meet you!

In her book – The Story of a Happy Marriage – Anne Patchett wrote:

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I think this is me.  I write from what I know and that tends to reflect a life lived close to home.  But what is life, what makes a life, what makes us feel deeply alive?  For me, it’s writing, watching, exploring, reading, sharing, offering with an open hand anything and everything that has deeply moved me and made me feel alive in this human being-ness.

And to quote again from the wonderful Anne Patchett:

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What I am trying to say is that if you get that, you will get me and understand this blog.

I was/am an adoptee – and that matters because I always write through this lens, this prism/prison.  I am always seeking to join the dots and this may be unfamiliar to you.  For other adoptees, one thing I know for sure, you understand the struggle, the constant frantic efforts to avoid abandonment, the long fraught journey home.

Somebody Else Jackie Kay If I was not myself, I would be somebody else. But actually I am somebody else. I have been somebody else all my life. It's no laughing matter going about the place all the time being somebo

Adoption.  I think, in a nutshell.  Age creates perspective, understanding, growth if not forgiveness..yet…that is a work in progress.

And me?  Well back in the day, I studied English Literature and trained as a librarian.   I held placards at Greenham Common and supported the miners.  I worked hard in London and Leeds but my greatest achievements to date are raising my four children as a sometime single mum and finding a happy, second marriage at 45.

You can read more about my story here

Thank you for reading